In one of Dr. Ozi’s ‘Tales of an African Princess in America‘ series, envy was made the subject of reasoning and was well dealt with.
It was on a Monday and having her discussion based on envy, was a decision that may have helped a lot overcome their untold tussles.
Tagging her discussion ‘Dealing with envy‘, Ozi makes known that it is in human’s nature to be envious. Affirming her claim that envy is natural for everyone, she says it means someone else has something one keenly desire.
On overcoming envy, Ozi says if not properly managed, one may end up being bitter and depressed.
Using her real-life experience, Ozi reveals that there was a point in her life when envy was the order of the day. According to her, she had a lot of stretch marks when she was growing up. The stretch marks beat her confidence and she was very conscious of the marks while growing up.
“I one day asked my sister that I have a lot of stretch marks, will I have to see a man who would want to marry me?” Ozi says, adding that it was that bad then as she feels envious of ladies with smooth skins.
Her sister’s answer to her question may have helped her through as she told her ‘when you find someone who loves you, they don’t care about if you have stretch marks or not and things that don’t even matter.”
For Ozi, solving the problem of envy is knowing the rule of your problem. Ozi also advises that to overcome envy, one should turn to his or her blessings. This, according to Ozi, is understood to be having the knowledge that everyone is blessed one way or the other. Everybody has something they are grateful for, everybody has something unique about them as well.
Ozi appears not to be a magician to know all that about her, but plays a simple card for the outlining of what’s distinct and what someone enjoys about her.”I play a simple game, I asked my friend to write five things she likes about me and I also write five things I like about my friend and at the end of the day, we both exchange the sheet of paper and read out what we have written respectively.” By so doing, Ozi oils her confidence. “When you hear what other people love about you, it makes you feel desirable, it makes you feel beautiful and wanted at the same time.” She added.
More so, one other way to beat envy is celebrating other people’s success. Ozi says when appreciating other people’s success and celebrating with them, guarantees one the platform to know how they succeed in that area you will admire. “When you do this, you have already defeated the monster called envy.”
She also added that unplugging people that makes one feel inadequate and unhappy is a sacrosanct task everyone should carry out. She says “If you spend time with people who are constantly like ‘oh my haters, my haters’, you are going to start living like that. Spend time with people who are grateful for their lives, who are constantly talking about their blessings, talking about their children succeeding; they may not have all the money in the world but are grateful for their health, they may not have the beautiful buildings but are grateful there are people who love them. If you spend time with people thinking like this, you will end up the same way.”
However, Ozi brings to the awareness of her listeners that envy doesn’t make one a bad person but the result of the envy is what determines the definition of everyone. “Also remember that happiness is not derived from comparing yourself with others.” She added.
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